Today, April 21, 2018, my niece married in a very, small wedding ceremony, with a larger reception. Get this: She didn’t want the wedding ordeal or reception for that matter, but her husband did. Just thought that was an intriguing piece of information.
The Officiator of the wedding made it seem as if pledging their love to one another was not a common occurrence. When he spoke of the seriousness of the vows, the pledge this young couple would make to one another.; he kept it very personal, despite the familiar scripture reference (1 Corinthians 13: 4-8) used for Weddings, the beautifully worded advice, seemed fresh and new this day. Even though the scriptures were read during my wedding, Twenty Five years ago, this year; Standing, listening, watching, smack in the beautiful middle vineyards of the Napa Valley.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
Love never fails.
He spoke of staying true, staying pure, staying honorable, reputable. It was the oddest feeling when he spoke of “staying true” I could almost hear my H quit breathing, but then again, maybe it was me. He repeated the point, by then, I could sense that half or more of the twenty or so present, quit breathing. But, who am I to guess.
At the end of his Seven minute joining together He said this: ” If you can do this, I guarantee you, okay, money back guarantee. If you can, every day, be patient, every day, be kind, you will be together, until death you do part. Let me say, NOT kind when you feel like it, NOT patient when you feel like it, but every.single.day. You do these things, and it will cover your marriage days.”
I thought, just wow. Because be patient; being patient will halt the arguments. Being kind will halt the selfishness. Halting selfishness – well, more than likely will halt infidelity: flirting, cheating, looking for more, of what, I do not know. I would imagine that halting selfishness will keep the WS from seeking ego kibbles from others.
But, what do I know?